Dream sharing can be a powerful avenue for strengthening our Night Club community, for learning how to honor and treasure our dreams, and for having fun together.
Many traditional societies talk about their dreams every morning at breakfast, and because of this heightened relationship to dreams, the members of these societies are rewarded with a richer dream life. In this traditional spirit, we invite you to share your dreams. It’s always helpful to check your motivation before you do anything, so in this case, perhaps see if what you want to share is in the spirit of an offering, instead of some form ego inflation. With honest and healthy dream sharing we can learn from each other, bond at a very personal level, and continue to nurture our dream lives.
What to Expect on your Call
- Join using Zoom. Need help with Zoom? Click here.
- At the start of each group session a group facilitator will be nominated.
- Ideal group sizes are 6-12 people. Breakouts into smaller groups will be accommodated if needed.
- “Touch-in”. All participants will have a chance to discuss how they are doing before starting the process of sharing dreams.
- After the group greets one another, each member proceeds to share one dream (if they want to).
- From these the group chooses one dream they would like to discuss first. Participants are then able to offer comments, ask questions, or suggest meanings that are relevant to that one particular dream. This may take anywhere from fifteen minutes to an hour, but it is best practice that participants discuss more than one dream per meeting!
5-Steps to Sharing Your Dreams
- The dreamer shares his or her dream.
- Group reflection on the dream’s content. This includes feelings, images, and metaphors they believe are represented by the dream imagery. (During this second step, the dreamer does not comment on the group’s opinions.)
- The dreamer responds, without further comment from the group.
- Dialogue between the dreamer and the group takes place.
- The dreamer is able to reflect, alone, on the meanings discussed by the group.
Participant Tips for Good Etiquette
- Instead of saying, “You’re dream means …” you are encouraged to begin your comments with, “If it were my dream…” This is a reminder that the dream ultimately belongs to the dreamer and prevents you from coming across as rude or confrontational.
- Respect privacy and confidentiality. Refrain from repeating to others what another person shares.
- Listen carefully. Allow the person to complete his or her sentence or thought. Be patient with another.
- Shy away from commenting directly on what another says.
- Withhold your advice. If you feel inclined to give advice, ask the person’s permission to talk about the situation or ask if he or she wants to receive advice.
- Refrain from criticizing or judging what another person says.
- Give others a chance to speak. Everyone who wants to share ought to have sufficient time to do so. Limit your own time. Speak pithily. Use brevity. Be conscious of others!
- Respect another’s desire for privacy. No on has an obligation to share.
- Use “I” statements rather than “we” statements. I can speak for myself. You can represent yourself.
- When you feel yourself beginning to say, “You should….” or “What you need to do is…,” stop yourself.
Note to Group Facilitators
- Allow everyone a chance to speak
- Keep time or ask someone to be a time-keeper.
Tips from Zoom
- Call from a private, quiet place with a reliable Wi-Fi connection.
- Use headphones with a built-in microphone.
- Limit outside distractions (from housemates, pets, etc.)
- Take a look in the mirror before the meeting begins.
- Turn-off or close down any beeping applications on your smartphone/computer.
- Don’t eat during the call.
- Light the front of your face – not the back.